How to: Conquer your fears (3 steps)

Most people in the world have a fear of something. A fear of heights, a fear of spiders, and some people are even afraid of Cats. It’s been built into us by our creator so that we stie clear of things that might cause us harm.

The old flight or fight mechanism sometimes takes control of our emotions to the level of unrealistic fear. We were born with only two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of being alone. Every other fear in life has been learned mostly because of situations that  people go through. So there is a way to conquer your fear , right? What’s been learned can always be forgotten, all it takes is making the effort to.

Try these three simple steps to conquer your fears and start believing that you are more than the fear inside of you.IMG_0318

Step 1– instead of reinforcing your fear of something, try replacing your negative experience with a positive one. For instance, your afraid of heights because you brother used to hang you out of your third story window and one day he dropped you and broke your leg. Ever since you have panic attacks every time you look out of a tall building.

Instead of giving into the fear and constantly running away, try facing your fear head on by going to the top of a tall building every week until your comfortable with it then invite your friends or family so they can put you in good spirits while you do the thing you fear most. Eventually , after practice, your fear will become a distant noise.

Step 2– Speak against your fear, go to war with it, don’t let it gain control you. When you feel like running, speak out loud against what ‘s provoking you. It’s something inside of you that tells you something is wrong, so if you get in the habit of speaking the opposite of what you think and encourage yourself out loud, your fears will start to be drowned out by what you truly value if you want it bad enough. Who cares if people think your talking to yourself , at least you know yourself well enough to know you aren’t crazy. It’s for your health to overcome fear.

Step 3: Perfect love drowns out fear , no matter how big it is. So what is perfect love? It’s knowing that you can trust the promises someone tells you and you confined in one another. It’s easy to find perfect love, God Gave it to us when Jesus sacrificed himself for us. If you can find and have a relationship with Jesus and your lord God, you’ll find that the love that surrounds you every day is more than the fear of anything in this world.

If you can truly try with all you heart to face your fears then you can conquer them. It just takes digging deeper into your heart for the encouragement to live a life without fear.
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How To: Win At Life (2 min.)

For years after the Iraq war I was torn up inside. I had chronic back pain, daily migraines, constant flashbacks and night terrors every night. I was going through so much pain inside and out that I was pushing everyone in my life away, ruining relationships just to get away from everyone with their suggestions and comments. I basically turned into a hermit sitting inside my apartment for days on end forcing myself to relive every battle I went through.

It was no way to live. I found myself in the pits of depression thinking daily about ending the pain and torture forever by my own hands. It was only through the grace of God that I learned how to escape from that hell. It’s not like I don’t still struggle with it now and again. I have my days, but what I learned is so simple that anyone can do it.

I had to let go of the past in order to have a future, which is harder than it sounds when you have Combat PTSD. Staying in the moment and immersing myself in love, family, and salvation is  has changed me into a better person. It’s so simple if you really think about it. It’s what comes natural to us because that is how God built us.

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As soon as I started changing how I thought and what I should believe in, my life did a complete 180. I’m married now and happier than  I have been in 12 years. Day in and day out I immerse myself with the love of my family, I volunteer to help fellow veterans, and I  to keep God in mind when I make every decision in my life.

I still have nightmares and flashbacks, but I’m living a better life because I choose not to immerse myself in the past and things that aren’t real. I feel the best mentally now than I have since getting back from war, I feel like I’m winning at life. Now take what I have learned and make it yours, start changing now, it’s never too late.